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Expat women unite!

27 Mar

The power of women is like nothing else. I was brought up the theory that “ women hold up half the sky” and I couldn’t agree more.

In today’s  society women,  and in particular mothers,  have a tendency to be very judgmental. Rather than doing that we should be doing which is, being supportive and lift each other up.

Since arriving in Italy and meeting women from around the world it has inspired me. Expat women are fabulous, fearless, relentless, inspiration people.

This last week I came down with the flu and our two children with bad cold, while my husband was abroad for work. When my girls friends found out my situation it was like a call to arms and the offers of help flooded in. It was mind blowing. All my friends have responsibilities, work, kids to name a few but yet they offered to drop off food, help with the kids or just come over to give me a rest. It was so thoughtful and so lovely, it was really touching.

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After moving many times over the years I have wonderful girlfriends around the world, that mean the world to me. They inspire me, advise me and support me and for that I am forever grateful.

This experience in Italy is like nothing else and the first time I have met so many women of all different ages, background and lifestyle that truly are incredible.

Girlfriends are a huge part of my life and something I could not live without. To be honest my best friend is my Mum but my girlfriend are apart of my soul. What I realize is behind me is my back up committee that always have my back. They are there for me no matter what.

I need to continue to strive to be the best women I can be, to learn from fabulous expat women and to fight the good fight.

This blog is dedicated to my girlfriends around the world. I love you all so much and are forever grateful for your friendships.

 

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Trailing spouse- trailing mother- travel widow wife 

16 Jun

        

      I am often asked what do you do, why are you in the USA, where is your husband and the question I am asked almost daily how do you cope with your husbands travel. 

      A reader of mine ask me to write a blog about how to cope with having a husband that travels. To that reader, this blog post is for you. 
      More and more people are traveling for work, both interstate and overseas. Some travel a little and others travel a lot. 

      I grew up with a Dad that travelled a lot in fact he commuted from Perth to the eastern states weekly. My Mum made every effort to make a happy, positive household. I can now start to understand what she went through as a mother and what a truly amazing job she did. 

      When I meet my husband, little did I know that he too would travel a lot. I have been with my husband for 11 years and over that time his travel has increased slowly until the last 5 years where it has become more often. 

      Having a husband that travels is far from easy, especially now with a newborn. But we make it work and enjoy spending time even more when we are together. 

      Over the years I have gained tips and tricks of being what I like to call a travel widow wife. A wife who is alone while there husband travels for work.
      So here our my tips for how to cope with a traveling husband

      1- Keep in contact- messages, viber, FaceTime, calls, whatever it takes to keep in contact on a daily basis. 

      2- Keep busy- plan out your days, while he is way- meet up with friends, work out, do chores, what ever your interests are ,fill your time with your favorite things to do.

      3-Schedule – it is crucial to plan. If I want my husband at an event or appointment then I plan around his schedule. We have what we call “black out day” where it is a must he is here and he tries to work his travel around that. 

      4- Communicate – communicate your thoughts, plans, daily thoughts with him. Make sure you include him on decisions and daily goings so he feels apart of the family. 

      5- Flexibility- flexibility is key. My husband travel changes all the time and it is key for me to be flexible and not to take it personally. 

      6- Support– ensure you have support around you- friends and family. Our friends are our family as we are expats living overseas. However I call my parents every day and they can FaceTime with our daughter. They are always there to support me and give guidance. 

      Every day I learn I new tip or trick and I never stop getting advice and support from fellow mothers. Being a mother, expat and a travel widow wife, is still new and I seek help when needed. 

      Enjoy every moment with your husband and make those moments special. Plan trips, date night, family outings and enjoy the ride! 

        

      Thanksgiving, a time to be thankful!

      28 Nov

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      So as you all know I am Australian. As an Australian we celebrate Australia Day, Anzac Day, AFL Grand Final, Melbourne Cup, Easter, Christmas to name a few.

      So Thanksgiving is an new celebration for my family. Today is our fifth Thanksgiving in the USA. I can now say it is one of my favorite holidays.

      It is a time to eat and drink, be thankful and spend time with family and friends. So I guess like Christmas without the presents.

      Today I reflect on the past year and reminisce about the highlights of the past year.

      From holidays, celebrations to births, weddings and magical moments. It has been a year to remember.

      Without a doubt the highlight was the birth of our baby girl Grace. It definitely wasn’t the pregnancy journey we expected nor was it a easy road but is was worth every single emotion and challenge because the result was truly amazing!

      At Thankagiving it reminds you of what is important and the goals ahead of you.

      I am no longer a expat but rather a mother and to define that more a expat mother.

      So let the next chapter begin on my Expat journey as a mother!

      At this time I wish you a very happy Thanksgiving and thank you for the support of my blog. I am truly thankful for the encouragement, feedback and enthusiasm that my readers bring me.

      I am signing off on Thanksgiving eve wishing each and everyone of you a Happy Holidays!

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